Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

opinionated

outgoing

nurturing

inventive

indecisive

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

tolerant

dominant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

unsure

naive

suspicious

self-serving

loyal

playful

decisive

contented

silently stubborn

flighty

worry-prone

arrogant

assertive

kind

reliable

sociable

self-critical

reluctant

a teaser

bossy

analytical

carefree

easygoing

action-oriented

overly sensitive

critical of others

shy

obnoxious

detail conscious

determined

a good listener

a party person

unforgiving

unmotivated

vain

demanding

happy

responsible

idealistic

considerate

impatient

passive

moody

impulsive

strong-willed

respectful

patient

fun-loving

unrealistic

an interrupter

argumentative

directionless

even-tempered

dependable

trusting

independent

frequently depressed

forgetful

aggressive

ambivalent

gentle

deliberate

powerful

optimistic

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

judgmental

logical

popular

emotional

agreeable

always right

guilt prone

uncommitted

unenthusiastic

accepting

pragmatic

spontaneous

well-behaved

merciless

uninvolved

a show-off

thoughtful

diplomatic

lively

task-oriented

sincere

lazy

loud

hard to please

tactless

adaptable

creative

a performer

direct

self-righteous

self-deprecating

disorganized

calculating

disciplined

pleasant

charismatic

confident

careful

afraid to face facts

unproductive

intimidating

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

As a parent, I am:

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.