Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

nurturing

inventive

opinionated

outgoing

indecisive

self-centered

power-oriented

perfectionist

sympathetic

enthusiastic

tolerant

dominant

self-serving

unsure

suspicious

naive

contented

playful

loyal

decisive

arrogant

silently stubborn

worry-prone

flighty

sociable

reliable

assertive

kind

bossy

self-critical

reluctant

a teaser

carefree

analytical

easygoing

action-oriented

critical of others

shy

overly sensitive

obnoxious

a party person

determined

detail conscious

a good listener

unmotivated

demanding

vain

unforgiving

happy

idealistic

considerate

responsible

moody

impatient

passive

impulsive

strong-willed

fun-loving

patient

respectful

argumentative

directionless

unrealistic

an interrupter

dependable

independent

even-tempered

trusting

frequently depressed

forgetful

aggressive

ambivalent

gentle

deliberate

optimistic

powerful

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

judgmental

agreeable

popular

emotional

logical

guilt prone

uncommitted

always right

unenthusiastic

accepting

pragmatic

spontaneous

well-behaved

thoughtful

uninvolved

a show-off

merciless

sincere

diplomatic

lively

task-oriented

loud

tactless

hard to please

lazy

creative

direct

adaptable

a performer

self-deprecating

disorganized

calculating

self-righteous

confident

pleasant

charismatic

disciplined

intimidating

unproductive

careful

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.