Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

outgoing

nurturing

opinionated

inventive

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

indecisive

dominant

sympathetic

tolerant

enthusiastic

self-serving

suspicious

unsure

naive

playful

contented

loyal

decisive

arrogant

flighty

silently stubborn

worry-prone

kind

sociable

assertive

reliable

reluctant

bossy

a teaser

self-critical

analytical

carefree

action-oriented

easygoing

critical of others

obnoxious

shy

overly sensitive

determined

a party person

detail conscious

a good listener

unforgiving

unmotivated

vain

demanding

responsible

considerate

idealistic

happy

impatient

impulsive

moody

passive

fun-loving

respectful

patient

strong-willed

argumentative

an interrupter

unrealistic

directionless

trusting

even-tempered

independent

dependable

frequently depressed

aggressive

forgetful

ambivalent

gentle

optimistic

deliberate

powerful

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

judgmental

popular

logical

emotional

agreeable

guilt prone

always right

uncommitted

unenthusiastic

spontaneous

well-behaved

accepting

pragmatic

thoughtful

merciless

a show-off

uninvolved

task-oriented

sincere

lively

diplomatic

tactless

lazy

loud

hard to please

adaptable

creative

a performer

direct

self-deprecating

self-righteous

calculating

disorganized

confident

disciplined

pleasant

charismatic

careful

intimidating

afraid to face facts

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

As an adult, I am:

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

In social situations, I am most often:

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.